Everything you do flows from your heart, Solomon suggests in one of his Proverbs. You live within certain boundaries. The heart has set these limitations. When you venture out beyond the limits of your heart, whether good or bad, it causes great stress and discomfort.
I was first introduced to these unconscious biases while studying ancient concepts. Many texts distinguished between a person’s mind, soul, body, and heart. The mind was spoken about in reference to the thoughts that we are aware of; while the heart represented the non-conscious mind.
Not only does your meta-cognitive mind evaluate the person you are with, it also takes into consideration who you believe yourself to be. Your past experiences, including traumas, and the knowledge you have gained have been scrambled together to form a non-conscious narrative about your sense of self.
Whenever you meet a person for the first time, especially if you want a relationship with them, you try to learn more about who they are. You may ask them questions about their family, hobbies, job, education, background, their beliefs, passions, pursuits, and so on.
You need a strategy and process to renew or renovate the automatic hidden thought processes in your mind that we discussed yesterday to get from where we are to where we want to be individually and collectively.
