The Strength of Vulnerability

Since childhood, we have been taught to associate vulnerability with weakness. Letting others see our hurts, failures, and imperfections is such a daunting challenge for most people that they keep everyone at a safe distance, always giving themselves an exit strategy in every relationship.

One young woman once came to me with a vulnerable confession. She said, “I have always tried so hard to be strong. I don’t let anyone in because I’m afraid I will be rejected. Whenever someone gets close enough to see my vulnerabilities, I find an excuse to run away from the relationship.” She had to stop before the tears overwhelmed her.

We are so afraid to appear weak because the ego has hoodwinked us into thinking that flawless perfection is the only way we will be loved and accepted. Since the nagging voice inside is quick to point out our faults and remind us that we are not enough, we hide behind impenetrable masks that show off our abilities, talents, knowledge, and wealth. No one can really know what we are like because an open heart leaves us exposed to attack and what we assume will be more pain.

But when you discover that your true essence is one with divine love, vulnerability is reframed not as a weakness, but as strength. Without vulnerability, the ego will hold your mind captive to the fear of being exposed. But the moment you let others in to see your imperfections, you give permission for love to heal and make the broken pieces whole.

Adapted from David Youngren, Awakening To I Am Love: How Finding Your True Self Transforms Your Wellbeing, Relationships, and Whart You Do. (page 165 – 166)